How To Deal With An Unexpected Breakup

Breakups suck. Especially when they’re unexpected, out-of-character and done via one measly little text. No conversation, no coherent reasoning, no nothing.

You’re left wondering what happened. Where did it all go wrong? It felt like it was only yesterday that we were talking in future tense and exchanging ‘I love you’.

And now this.

The person you loved and who supposedly loved you for all these years is nothing but a stranger.

Until two weeks ago, I never truly knew what heartbreak felt like. I can’t say I’m a fan. But I’m determined to take this pain and channel it into something useful, hence why you’re reading this. I may not understand what leads someone to do a Jekyll and Hyde, but I’ve learnt a lot of lessons along the way; lessons that might hopefully help one of you if you’re going through heartbreak.

Succumb to the Emotional Rollercoaster //

Myself and those around me never saw it coming. The last time I saw him was the weekend before the breakup; he had been staying with myself and my family for the weekend. That Sunday afternoon he didn’t want to leave, he kept turning around to give me another kiss goodbye. Who knew it would be goodbye forever.

Sudden breakups, with no foresight, can be one of the most confusing things you can go through. Especially when prior to that moment, everything seemed perfect.

For awhile you’re going to be in complete and utter shock.

I said the phrase ‘I can’t believe this’ so many times it lost all meaning. I wondered where my best friend went and who this imposter was. How can someone change so much in one day? I couldn’t understand how someone can tell you how much they loved you one week and then act as if you don’t exist the next. I wondered if he had really loved me at all; surely if you love someone you won’t let them go so easily?

So many questions. Yet, no answers.

Then, scattered throughout the shock you get these unimaginably sharp pangs of sadness, anger, betrayal and disappointment – just to name a few.

As much as I wish I could take all this pain away, it’s inevitable. I like to think of emotion as energy in motion. If you don’t let that energy flow, it’s just going to keep building until you explode. So, allow yourself to succumb to the emotional rollercoaster. We seem to live in a world where people view sadness as weakness and each time we start to expose our real emotion, we cover it up with an ‘I’m fine’. It’s ok not to be fine.

It’s ok to be heartbroken.

Cry out all the pain and frustration. Some days will be easier than others, but above all, remember that time heals everything. One day you won’t feel like this. But until then, you just have to work through the emotions and take it day by day.

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xo

Chanté