"Stop it," right there! That instant!
Yes, halt your unproductive thoughts as soon as you feel you're having them.
You can always choose your thoughts. As soon as you realize you are being approached by unwanted unhappy thoughts like; anger, frustration, jealousy, fear, worry, blame, selfishness, and comparison- please interrupt them, then and there. Immediately choose an activity that can engage your mind and heart 100 percent- something that can bring you joy and smile instantly! Completely shut down your "thinking process" at least for that moment of time, and move on to the good feeling activities; that's happening around you.
Replace those errrrr feelings of frustration, that's stemming from you for your failing efforts, or from other sources! But stop them right there.
There may be many defined rules and or tips to stop feeling negative; but everything will work only when we take the charge of our thoughts; and filter only the productive ones to have access to our heart and mind- may be with some mindful practices!
I have had been trying hard to find those reasons with which I can win over my negative thoughts. And finally, I got hold of them- no where else, but inside me. I was excited to learn about the "powers" we have inside us. If we want, we can for sure!
I would like to share those three simple ways, I have been practicing- how to mindfully shift my negative thoughts and feelings. I hope they'll be useful for you too!
- Self-knowledge of the kind of thoughts you have.
"Self-awareness is the secret weapon for habit change"- read somewhere. When you know what you think, why you think and, how often you are hit by similar thoughts; you can accept yourself and others with an open mind. You now know the reasons that brings such thoughts to your mind, and you can avoid them in future.
2. Asking yourself few questions
Every time you start feeling a little different (not the usual happy you), focus your mind and ask yourself few questions like: why do you even need to think about that person or incident? Are they important in your life? If not,
then why should you spoil your day for someone, who does not even hold a place in your heart? Are those thoughts necessary, or you're just having them because you don't have anything else to think about right now! Finding answers to such questions will not only involve your mindful decision; but will also engage you to understand the kind of thoughts that actually make your day?
See if you can, try and focus on the possible solutions, that may help you clear your mind by erasing the burden of unhappy emotions- at least for some time!
3. Stop the negative conversation in your mind itself.
It usually happens that; when we feel terribly down by the hovering negative thoughts, we try to reach out to the person we feel safe to discuss our problems with, or we involve someone near us- to pour our heart out. But it is always good to not spill the beans when you are feeling torn by your negative emotions. Just let that bad feeling (s) settle down before you speak to someone, about something. How about you switching off everything that you have right now- your mind, phones, internet, and any kind of conversations you think, you wish to have and going out to your terrace, deck, or to your backyard and breathe some fresh air? Remain in that 'zone' until you feel calm and relaxed again. Only then get back to your original place you have had to leave behind.
My negative self-talk was keeping me away from trying something new. Those limiting thoughts, had been with me for a very long time, and I was almost convinced that they were true. I never considered the possibility that they were just thoughts. If you are feeling lost or purposeless, take some time to talk gently to yourself. Listen to your soul and explore your most genuine passions and desires so you can connect with them, start doing what you love, and experience this enlightened sensation. Follow your intuition, and this will lead you to happiness.
Do you think this could be a best way to calm that storm inside you? Do not forget to leave me your thoughts in the comments below. What do you do to pop those negative self talk bubbles immediately?